Studying Abroad and then comes Love
Here it goes, there are so many students and people who want tostudy abroad or go abroad to immerse them in other culture, see theworld, and have their minds opened by this incredible world that we live in.You go on an pursue that for several reasons; meeting friends, partying,learning a language, eating om nom nom food, partying, eating, and the lastthing is study. During the beginning, the middle or near the end of all yourtravels or studies sometimes the stars align and you fall in love and findsomeone that is perfectly for you, perfectly exotic and perfectly labeled”I live an ocean and a half away from you but I want to be withyou.”
Okay… whoa. Step Back for a sec.
What happens now?
Yes, it’s obvious that maintaining a long distant relationship isdifficult and frustrating. And YES, there should be a perfectly thought-outplan and some rules to be set before separating to your country.It’s…not…that…easy! It goes from seeing that person whenever you like toadjusting the time difference that you constantly have to convert in your mind.It doesn’t matter if it’s 4 hours away or a 13 hour flight and an ocean away,the waves of happy love and overbearing frustration still manages toboth break on the shore.
With the going abroad case, studying abroad and finding someoneearly on that you get on with is bittersweet in the end. There are three thingsthat I ask myself all the time:
1. Do I really want to be with this person? I’m here, he’s there.One phone call away can just end things and you won’t ever see that personagain. Easy as that.
2. Or, I want to be with him, does that mean I have to leave myfamily and start a new life in a new country and possibly learn a new cultureand language?
3. Are you crazy?
The last one is the more rational and realistic one, but this islove we’re talking about! We are all crazy when a little love smacks us on theass.
# 3: I am Crazy.
In a long distant relationship, everything is a 50/50, everythingeither intensifies or falls apart, there is not really an in between, eitheryou stay together or you don’t. Especially when one person lives in anothercountry, more questions arise and needs to be answered quickly. For example,are you ready to be with this person and move to another country if needed? Areyou prepared to leave your family behind and start a new life in another place?Are you ready to have that person move to you? Will I lose my Chinese cultureif my lover is not from the same background?
The problem is that I can’t see him often and the time differenceand lifestyles is just on the opposite ends. It’s a really sticky situation,but somehow I can feel that I have a little bit of faith and it’s hard to letgo.
Language Barrier
Oh what? Your boyfriend doesn’t speak your language?
That’s a whole other story on top of this one. See the next blogpost because it’s many problems that goes with this one.
Anyone else have the same type of problem, any advice is muchneeded or just stories.
Your dear friend,
Dandelion Traveler
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